To err is human.
So why do we feel a need to put ourselves down, especially in front of others? On some occasions, if not all.
Why do we feel this form of self-sabotaging is OK even if we justify it only for fun and nothing more.
We have all been there, and to be honest, so have I.
The more I interact with the world, the more I see this pattern.
Over the years, I realized that it is OK to humbly boast about yourself, acknowledge the compliments received, and own up for the mistakes while being nice to yourself and self-actualize in the process.
So, what is the key?
– Understanding that self-sabotaging, even if you mean in a fun way, is still disrespectful of self.
– Do what you would typically do as self-sabotage in front of a mirror, or imagine you are saying those dialogues to a friend instead and not to yourself.
You will start to see a change in your perception and your interactions, and your way of life, after.
I had a chance to have open discussions about this with some, where I observed the pattern but wanted to share my thoughts with a larger group with a simple intent to inform and educate.
Does that mean I don’t have my rare moments of self-sabotage, where I slip into that back-hole subconsciously? I do.
But again, to err is human but to forgive is divine.