Dots in the head.

How often do you look back and realize that half your early life was a lie, because of the story you created in your head?

A series of childhood events lead me to connect dots with my ever-so creative brain. So well, into my early childhood, I grew up thinking that I was not really cared for and possibly an adopted kid. Years later, when maturity hit early, and I opened about my childhood feelings during my mid-teens, my life changed all over again.  

I realized that back then, while nature vs. nurture played up my psyche, my eavesdropping contributed to most of the story’s baseline.

Few eavesdropping instances and enlightenment long after – 

  1. I was a puny, not-so-little dark-skinned baby when I was born. – True statement but not as monstrous as I visualized. 
  2. I realized beauty routines are best to start as a toddler, so I scoured myself with my poop. – Quite a few toddlers have done that activity, so I was no exception. 
  3. I got shoved into a garbage bin as a toddler. So, I overheard one too many times. – Back in the days, my great grandmom feared that I would be mistaken for a kid from the tribal group in the village. And, she hid me beside a basket when someone from their community dropped by to our place. (Still silly to hear but love makes you do weird things sometimes).  
  4. The standard sibling statement of, ‘you are adopted’ circulated in the house. – ALL siblings say this, and this is a cardinal rule in the older sibling manual.
  5. I ran away from the house when I was 2, which kept itching at the back of my head that the family did not bring back the right kid home. More on it here – Escapades of a 2-year-old, me!  I accepted that I was & am in the right place
  6. Last but not least, I have always been ever-so-different from any immediate or extended family members; this did not add well with point 5. – I learned to appreciate the differences and started to love them. 

Moral of the story – 

  1. If you are a kid when grown-ups talk, please don’t eavesdrop. 🤭 True to all 6 of 6. 
  2. Ask questions when you have one. The story in your head might be far from reality. It might be exciting and novel-worthy, but still.

Image Credits – Image by Gordon Johnson from Pixabay

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s